What can you achieve in 7 years?

What can you achieve in 7 years?

Yesterday was 7 years since I’d left my husband, the father of my kids and the only life I’d ever known. I needed an AVO and police intervention after years of domestic violence including verbal and physical abuse. When I left him I luckily had a lot of support around me but I had zero self esteem and had no idea how I would manage life as a single mum after being with him since I was 15.

In the last 7 years I have been raising 5 kids by myself and doing a pretty good job. They’re all good kids and I take all the credit for it.

I’ve taken them to the snow, on several cruises, on their 1st overseas trip and across NSW camping and fourbying. We’re roadtripping to Uluru in a few months too!

I go to school events, footy games, netball carnivals, take them moto riding and love them fiercely.

I got divorced, finalised property settlement, worked my ass off and sacrificed a lot to buy my exhusband out and keep the house to give my children security and stability. I then renovated the house, sold the house and moved down the coast in search of a better life for us. We found it. It’s gorgeous down here.

I bought a block of land and moved into our brand new house 12 months ago.

I’ve graduated Uni with a Bachelor of Community Development and currently at Uni studying Law to maintain my employability and ensure our futures.

I self published a book on my DV experience, sold copies around the world and about to start collaborating with a company who shares my vision.

I’ve lost 5 kilos, worked on me and my healing and gained self confidence and self esteem I never imagined I’d ever have. I’ve learned to love who I am, flaws and all, and so damn excited for what the future holds.

I’ve never been happier ❤️

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Vision Board

Vision Board

I love a good Vision Board. There’s something powerful about seeing your goals in your own handwriting and/or seeing the image of your goal and imagining yourself there.

My latest Vision Board is a May 2019 creation and I’m going to share my Manifestation Journey as I achieve everything on it.

From seeing Abraham Hicks and Kerwin Rae in person to selling more copies of my book and becoming an inspirational speaker. Visiting Uluru, The Elephant Nature Park in Thailand, The Great Barrier Reef, yoga, a Grabber Blue Ford Mustang and manifesting my soul mate into my life. It’s going to be a beautiful and exciting journey.

My YouTube channel can be found by clicking this link here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2tYgoNF7TyHi7IsjCvwLWw where I’m making videos of My Manifestation Journey in raw, unedited form shot on my iPhone 6S in my bedroom and walk in robe. You’re seeing the journey from the bottom to the top. You’ll get to see how I do it, how I manifest everything into my life.

What I’ve learnt on my weight loss journey so far.

What I’ve learnt on my weight loss journey so far.

I’m 36 years old. I’ve been trying to lose weight for a few of those years. I’m back on the journey now but with a totally different outlook!

It’s one thing to set a goal to lose weight. It’s an entirely different thing to achieve that goal. And then it’s another thing altogether to maintain that weight loss.

So here’s a few things I’ve learnt about myself for this time around.

I need to want to achieve it by putting in the work. As in the actual work. I need to understand my body, my eating habits and my why’s. I need to understand nothing good ever comes out of quick fixes. This has to be a lifestyle change.

What I’m doing different this time around is I’ve engaged the services of a personal trainer. Gyms don’t work for me. I make excuses and I allow myself to skip the gym because of said excuses. I’m tired, busy, have other things to do, giving myself a break etc etc and I’ll skip the gym given half a chance. Group sessions have worked in the past but this time around I couldn’t find one to fit in with my working hours. So a personal trainer it was. I completed my 3rd session yesterday afternoon and I make myself go because the time works for me, she’s waiting for me, she holds me accountable and I’ve paid for it in advance. If I don’t turn up I lose the money. That definitely helps.

We all know that food is a huge part of weight loss. In fact, I’ve read it’s between 70-80% of weight loss. I haven’t always taken the nutrition side of it seriously. I have taken the opportunity on many occasions to buy take out dinner or an ice cream because I’ve ‘already worked it off so I’m allowed’. Ugh.

I’m an emotional eater and I treat myself with chocolate and ice cream. If I’m sad, angry, stressed and/or happy I reach for a chocolate. If I’m proud of myself or have reached a goal more chocolate it is. I also eat out of spite. “You can’t finish all of that!!” Umm watch me. The best one was when an ex-boyfriend told me I was getting fat and needed to lose some weight. My response was to go down to the local shops and buy a block of chocolate. I got home, sat on the lounge and started chomping.
“Why are you doing that after what I just said?” he called out.
Without skipping a beat I answered “How fat do I have to get before you’ll f**k off?”

This time around I’m more conscious of my eating habits. I try to eat when I’m hungry and not just because. I try not to treat myself with food but rather intrinsically acknowledge my achievements. I don’t restrict foods but I make better choices. I drink more water now and I keep a bottle of water handy so I don’t reach for the juice or soft drink. I eat mindfully. I don’t scoff my meals while watching tv or with my phone in my hand. I savour the mouthfuls and enjoy it more.

I’ll experience a slower weight loss than if I were to jump head first into a calorie restrictive diet and spend an hour every day at the gym. But I’m making choices which fit in with my family, work and lifestyle. Therefore I’m more likely to succeed over the long term.

I’d like to lose 10 kilos. I’ll you updated.

What are you working towards right now?

What are you working towards right now?

Do you know what you want? Do you have a goal in mind? Regardless of what you are or aren’t doing to achieve it?

If you do know what you’re striving towards, that’s a perfect first step. If you don’t know then why don’t you set something right now. Anything.

Mine right now is to get fitter, healthier and lose a few kilos. I’m not dieting, I’m not restricting foods, I’m not spending hours in the gym but I am working towards it in a lifestyle change.

I’m eating better because I’m making better choices. I’m reaching for fruit instead of processed snacks. I’m drinking water instead of soft drink. I’m moving my body when I can.

This morning I jumped up out of bed, chucked my active wear on (really it’s a shirt and comfy pants lol) and my runners so I can take the dogs for a walk when my kids leave to catch the bus to school.

Sometimes you just need to know what you want and then just do the work to get there. Walking the dogs and better food choices today. One day at a time will get you to your end result.

Happy Monday 😊

Goal Setting

Goal Setting

Goal setting begins with something you want to achieve. Do you want to land a new job? Do you want to finish your course? Save a specific amount of money? Learn a new skill? Complete an thrill seeking adventure? Go on a holiday? Buy a new car?

Whatever it is, you need to write it down!! I cannot stress that enough. There is something very powerful that happens in your mind when you see your goal in your own handwriting. And again, write it down, in your own handwriting and put it where you will see it regularly. Stick it to your bedroom mirror, on the back of the toilet door, in your car. You need to see it.

Follow the SMART principles to create a realistic goal that you will be motivated to achieve.

Is it specific?
Goals like I want a new car or lots of money aren’t specific enough. Which car do you want to buy? How much money do you want to earn? What industry do you want a new job in? What is the skill you want to learn? Make it specific and also consider your why factor. You’ll be much more motivated to achieve a goal if you attach a why statement to it such as I want to quit smoking to improve my breathing ability and health.

Is it measurable?
It’s not enough to set a goal like I want to be happy or successful because it’s hard to measure when you get there. Setting a goal like I want to add 10 clients to my business in the next 12 months is measureable because when you hit that 10th client, you’ll be there.
Your goal should also be something meaningful because you’ll be more motivated to achieve it. Goals to do with health are usually more meaningful especially if you’ve had a health scare.

Is it attainable?
Your goal should be realistic and achievable. I want to earn $100,000 in the next week may not be realistic if you’re unemployed or on a fixed income, that’s more of a wish, but I want to earn $100,000 in 5 years time due to promotions and increased sales is a more realistic goal.

Is it relevant?
Is it something you can manage to achieve in your current lifestyle? A goal of I want to become a best selling author won’t be relevant if you hate writing. Just as I want to travel the world on my own may not quite work if you have a young family.

Is there a time frame?
Goals are much more achievable if you set a time frame for them. A goal of I want to visit Italy by 2019 is more motivating than I want to travel the world at some point in my future. Put a time limit on it to push you towards getting there.

Remember that your goals are not just about the destination but the fun along the way, the lessons learned and the person you grow into on your journey.

What’s your goal?

Just start where you are

Just start where you are

I’m generally happy with all areas of my life, or at least where they’re heading, but the one area I’ve struggled the most with is health and fitness. Which of course includes my weight. I’m currently about 5-6 kilos more than where I’d like to be which doesn’t sound like a lot but on my height, it sure feels like a lot. And when you’re not happy, it doesn’t how close you are, you just find it hard to be happy.

Now why don’t I do something about it? It comes down to a lack of time, energy and motivation. All in my control. I can choose to wake up an hour earlier to get a workout in. I can choose to plan my meals in advance to avoid grabbing takeaway. I can choose to have a bowl full of fruit available to snack on instead of picking the wrong snacks. It’s more in my control than what I tell myself.

I also made the mistake many people do and that is wait for a Monday, or the beginning of the month and January, yes the epitome of ‘New Year New Me’ resolutions. I thought that beginning on a Monday improved my chances of making a good go of it. However, every Monday rolled around and it passed on by without me just starting. So, I resolved I’d definitely start next Monday. For sure! Next Monday is it!!

The truth is you don’t need January, the 1st of a month or a Monday to start anything. Yesterday was a Thursday and I pushed myself to start. I feel great, sore today in muscles that haven’t been worked on in months, but definitely happier for having started. And definitely keen to work out today and not let yesterday go to waste.

Just start right where you are. You don’t need to be great to start but you do need to start to be great.