Why I Stayed and where to buy it

Why I Stayed and where to buy it

True story of a Domestic Violence relationship. I once believed the only way I’d get out of my relationship was in a body bag. I wrote this book to assist my healing and to answer the question I was asked most often “Why did you stay for so long?” I hope to create awareness of abusive relationships by telling my story of how it began, why I stayed for as long as I did and what I had to do to start the healing process. It is my vision to educate some and give hope to others. This is proof that there is life after Domestic Violence

Here are some direct links or there’s an option to buy direct from me if you’re in Australia – no additional postage costs, no waiting times.




Or if you’re in Australia you can buy direct from me for AUD$15 and I’ll post it same day to you


Thank you for supporting the awareness of DV and empowerment for life after.

Reach for a better feeling thought

Reach for a better feeling thought

If you ask me who my favourite spiritual teacher is, without a doubt, it’s Abraham Hicks. Abraham ignited my healing journey and continues to be my go-to for every problem I come across.

The message is centred around feeling. It’s reaching for a better feeling thought.

It’s understanding that everything that you’ve ever wanted is because you think you will feel better in the having of it

It’s about feeling better and how to reach that place.

Are you hurting? You want to feel peace.

Are you angry? You want to feel joy.

Are you in physical pain? You want to feel healthy and comfortable.

Are you confused? You want to feel clarity.

Are you lost? You want to feel stability and security.

Once you know which feeling you’re reaching for you can begin choosing better feeling thoughts.

It could be as simple as adding ‘yet’ to the phrase to soften the emotion.

I want to feel peace and I don’t….yet but I will. I want to feel peace and I don’t right now but I know I can get there. And until I get there I won’t hate on myself for not feeling peace.

I will love myself until I do feel peace.

Then notice the moments where you do feel peace. In meditation, singing along with your favourite song, in the shower where all you can hear is the water flowing. Bask in those moments. Milk those moments and watch the moments gain momentum and grow.

Always remember that you are important and you are enough 💜

What can you achieve in 7 years?

What can you achieve in 7 years?

Yesterday was 7 years since I’d left my husband, the father of my kids and the only life I’d ever known. I needed an AVO and police intervention after years of domestic violence including verbal and physical abuse. When I left him I luckily had a lot of support around me but I had zero self esteem and had no idea how I would manage life as a single mum after being with him since I was 15.

In the last 7 years I have been raising 5 kids by myself and doing a pretty good job. They’re all good kids and I take all the credit for it.

I’ve taken them to the snow, on several cruises, on their 1st overseas trip and across NSW camping and fourbying. We’re roadtripping to Uluru in a few months too!

I go to school events, footy games, netball carnivals, take them moto riding and love them fiercely.

I got divorced, finalised property settlement, worked my ass off and sacrificed a lot to buy my exhusband out and keep the house to give my children security and stability. I then renovated the house, sold the house and moved down the coast in search of a better life for us. We found it. It’s gorgeous down here.

I bought a block of land and moved into our brand new house 12 months ago.

I’ve graduated Uni with a Bachelor of Community Development and currently at Uni studying Law to maintain my employability and ensure our futures.

I self published a book on my DV experience, sold copies around the world and about to start collaborating with a company who shares my vision.

I’ve lost 5 kilos, worked on me and my healing and gained self confidence and self esteem I never imagined I’d ever have. I’ve learned to love who I am, flaws and all, and so damn excited for what the future holds.

I’ve never been happier ❤️

Vision Board

Vision Board

I love a good Vision Board. There’s something powerful about seeing your goals in your own handwriting and/or seeing the image of your goal and imagining yourself there.

My latest Vision Board is a May 2019 creation and I’m going to share my Manifestation Journey as I achieve everything on it.

From seeing Abraham Hicks and Kerwin Rae in person to selling more copies of my book and becoming an inspirational speaker. Visiting Uluru, The Elephant Nature Park in Thailand, The Great Barrier Reef, yoga, a Grabber Blue Ford Mustang and manifesting my soul mate into my life. It’s going to be a beautiful and exciting journey.

My YouTube channel can be found by clicking this link here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2tYgoNF7TyHi7IsjCvwLWw where I’m making videos of My Manifestation Journey in raw, unedited form shot on my iPhone 6S in my bedroom and walk in robe. You’re seeing the journey from the bottom to the top. You’ll get to see how I do it, how I manifest everything into my life.

Goal Setting

Goal Setting

Goal setting begins with something you want to achieve. Do you want to land a new job? Do you want to finish your course? Save a specific amount of money? Learn a new skill? Complete an thrill seeking adventure? Go on a holiday? Buy a new car?

Whatever it is, you need to write it down!! I cannot stress that enough. There is something very powerful that happens in your mind when you see your goal in your own handwriting. And again, write it down, in your own handwriting and put it where you will see it regularly. Stick it to your bedroom mirror, on the back of the toilet door, in your car. You need to see it.

Follow the SMART principles to create a realistic goal that you will be motivated to achieve.

Is it specific?
Goals like I want a new car or lots of money aren’t specific enough. Which car do you want to buy? How much money do you want to earn? What industry do you want a new job in? What is the skill you want to learn? Make it specific and also consider your why factor. You’ll be much more motivated to achieve a goal if you attach a why statement to it such as I want to quit smoking to improve my breathing ability and health.

Is it measurable?
It’s not enough to set a goal like I want to be happy or successful because it’s hard to measure when you get there. Setting a goal like I want to add 10 clients to my business in the next 12 months is measureable because when you hit that 10th client, you’ll be there.
Your goal should also be something meaningful because you’ll be more motivated to achieve it. Goals to do with health are usually more meaningful especially if you’ve had a health scare.

Is it attainable?
Your goal should be realistic and achievable. I want to earn $100,000 in the next week may not be realistic if you’re unemployed or on a fixed income, that’s more of a wish, but I want to earn $100,000 in 5 years time due to promotions and increased sales is a more realistic goal.

Is it relevant?
Is it something you can manage to achieve in your current lifestyle? A goal of I want to become a best selling author won’t be relevant if you hate writing. Just as I want to travel the world on my own may not quite work if you have a young family.

Is there a time frame?
Goals are much more achievable if you set a time frame for them. A goal of I want to visit Italy by 2019 is more motivating than I want to travel the world at some point in my future. Put a time limit on it to push you towards getting there.

Remember that your goals are not just about the destination but the fun along the way, the lessons learned and the person you grow into on your journey.

What’s your goal?

Finding Your Purpose

Finding Your Purpose

It’s what we all want to find isn’t it? What is my purpose? What am I here to do?
It’s definitely something I ponder regularly and I feel like I’ve gotten a lot closer over the last few years.

My purpose revolves around helping people. I began a degree in Community Development with the intention of entering welfare and social work related employment. While studying, I have been an Early Childhood Educator for a number of years with the idea that I would enter into casework and/or Child Protection.

Then something in me changed and I wanted to explore Law. It’s interesting and I intend to finish my Associate Degree in Legal Studies but it’s ultimately not the industry I want to end up in anymore.

So I formalised my love of massage and healing and began offering relaxation and remedial massages. I grew up playing sports with a like minded father who taught me the importance of seeing medical professionals when my body was in pain and injured.
In a way I was a self taught amateur massage therapist and I used my intuition and self-taught knowledge to identify muscle issues and problems and work to treat them.
I have been described as having ‘magic hands’ because I just know and feel what I’m doing.

Recently, I completed a certificate in Life Coaching (having previously completed introductory modules of counselling which I loved) which gave me new purpose to inspire and motivate people. I am am a very motivated person, often described as a do-er, a go getter, a goal oriented person. It’s who I am to my core.

I have a special interest in sports massage for young athletes where I not only massage for injury prevention and recovery but develop their mindset as well. I discuss body image and empowerment, adequate water intake, the benefits of stretching, the importance of training, visualisation and how essential it is to train your mind as well as your body. Performance and achievement is mental as well as physical. And I like to focus on that.

Which brings me to why I have taken a special interest in young athletes. I want to inspire and motivate people to become the best version of themselves. In business you are encouraged to find your niche, find your target market and create a solution for their problems, to find your purpose. And I think I’ve found it. It requires more refining and research but I’m going to start dabbling in motivational speaking.

Lisa’s Sanctuary was named to reflect a safe space to receive a massage. A place where you didn’t have to be uncomfortable, where if you had a toddler present I would make that work, where if you wanted to vent and talk you were more than welcome to, where self love and self care was highly encouraged and massage celebrated as something you and your body deserved. Lisa’s Sanctuary will now also become a safe space to become the best version of you. It will incorporate the physical act of massage but also the mental stimulation of Life Coaching, motivational speaking, setting your goals and achieving them, identifying your blocks and overcoming them. Become the best version of you.

So what is your purpose? What are you here to do? What makes you happy? What would continue to do if money ceased to exist? What feeds your soul?
I’d love to hear your thoughts.