Self care and another reason for a massage

Self care and another reason for a massage

Many years ago I felt a horrendous pain in my shoulder (muscle) and can’t remember doing much to aggravate it.

I even went to hospital but they couldn’t find any immediate causes of the pain.

I made an appointment with an Osteopath I knew and asked for his opinion.

“You’re very tight up here, relax your shoulders, relax…relax more” pointing to my whole shoulder and upper back region “Do you work at a desk and hunch over a lot?”

I didn’t. He mentioned a couple more things that didn’t resonate and then said “You could be regularly holding tension” to which I laughed and replied “Like when my exhusband’s car pulled into the driveway and I had to walk on eggshells?”

And I stopped laughing when he said Yes.

It was after that appointment that I became aware of just how many times throughout the day I clenched my jaw or held my breath or tensed my shoulders or bit my fingernails.

It was a lot and so became my love of massages. A massage for me not only works my muscles but gives me a whole hour of self care including a great chat and the opportunity to relax, daydream, doze and enjoy.

Right now unclench your jaw, relax your shoulders and take a deep breath in and out and remind yourself that you e got this.

Always remember that you are important and you are enough 💜

PS Leanne Semple Massage Therapist if you’re anywhere near the South Coast NSW

Why I Stayed and where to buy it

Why I Stayed and where to buy it

True story of a Domestic Violence relationship. I once believed the only way I’d get out of my relationship was in a body bag. I wrote this book to assist my healing and to answer the question I was asked most often “Why did you stay for so long?” I hope to create awareness of abusive relationships by telling my story of how it began, why I stayed for as long as I did and what I had to do to start the healing process. It is my vision to educate some and give hope to others. This is proof that there is life after Domestic Violence

Here are some direct links or there’s an option to buy direct from me if you’re in Australia – no additional postage costs, no waiting times.

https://m.barnesandnoble.com/s/Why+I+stayed+lisa+Lee

https://www.angusrobertson.com.au/books/why-i-stayed-lee-lisa/p/9781925993219?zsrc=go-nons&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI2sjaqpe45AIVgwsrCh38sg2WEAQYASABEgJVgfD_BwE

https://www.booktopia.com.au/why-i-stayed-lee-lisa/book/9781925993219.html

Or if you’re in Australia you can buy direct from me for AUD$15 and I’ll post it same day to you

https://www.paypal.com/webapps/shoppingcart?flowlogging_id=c150a64f427c0&mfid=1567635133808_c150a64f427c0#/checkout/openButton

Thank you for supporting the awareness of DV and empowerment for life after.

2 words to stop saying to change your perspective and lift your vibration.

2 words to stop saying to change your perspective and lift your vibration.

Words have power, it is true, but they have power because of the feeling or emotion you attach to the words. Ask everyone what the word ‘cheat’ means to them and listen to the varying levels of emotion, pain and meaning they each give to that one word.

Words, or the feeling behind them, can make or break a few minutes of your life. Unfortunately, a lot of us let a word ruin our entire day. But what if you could change the word, and thus the feeling behind it, to help improve your mood and vibration?

1. Sorry

Stop saying sorry when it has a negative connotation attached. By all means, say sorry when you’re apologising (and actually mean it) but what if instead of saying Sorry and feeling guilty, embarassed or ashamed you said Thank you instead?

I’m so sorry I’m late = Thank you for waiting for me, I’ve had a rough morning.

I’m sorry for venting = Thank you for listening to me, I really appreciate it.

I’m sorry I made that mistake = Thank you for picking that up, phew, saved me!

2. Have

Sounds strange on its own to see ‘have’ but that 4 letter word can put the weight of the world on your shoulders.

I have to go to work today, ugh = I choose to go to work today to earn income which supports my lifestyle.

I have to go to the gym = I choose to go to the gym to feel strong and healthy.

I have to walk the dog this afternoon = I get to walk my dog in the fresh air, be active and spread some happiness to my dog.

I have to wake up to a 5am alarm in the morning = I get to wake up and enjoy the day.

Words are important. Language is important. So is the feeling behind it. So if your words put pressure on you, make you feel like crap and lower your vibration look for some alternatives that will make you feel better and raise your vibration.

‘I have to’ vs ‘I choose to’

‘I have to’ vs ‘I choose to’

There’s something pretty heavy about saying and feeling like you ‘have to’ do something. It doesn’t feel very fun when you feel like you’re doing something out of obligation rather than from your own accord.

I have to go to work.

I have to take the dog to the vet.

I have to pick up my mate from the airport.

Have to feels out of your control and has a tinge of negativity to it. But what if you changed the word ‘have’ and replaced it with ‘choose’?

I choose to go to work so I have money to eat, pay rent and have money for entertainment.

I choose to take my dog to the vet to keep him/her healthy and happy.

I choose to pick my mate up from the airport because I like helping him/her out.

It feels less obligatory when it’s a choice.

But what if you do feel like you have to go to work? There’s always a choice. You might not like the place you work at or it might not be the career of your dreams but right now you do have a choice.

You can choose to go to work and get paid while you wait for something else to come along or you can choose to quit right now. The downside of quitting is you won’t get that pay check.

I’m not loving the stress of my workplace at the moment but I still choose to go to work so I get paid. I like my mortgage being paid, I like to eat, my children like to eat and so I choose to go to work for the paycheck right now.

It doesn’t mean that I’m not working on manifesting something different into my life though. It just means that by changing the words I use I can shift the energy and how I feel about it.

The importance of mindset for young athletes

The importance of mindset for young athletes

My 11 year old son has played rugby league since he was 5 years old. When we moved to a new area at the beginning of last year he disovered that most of his new friends played soccer so he wanted to give it a go for the first time. No problem. He enjoyed soccer but this year he decided to go back to rugby league (much to my delight lol).

About a month ago he started throwing around the idea of returning to soccer. I knew the reason why but I wanted him to be able to verbalise the reason himself. When asked why he would just respond with “Because I just want to go back to soccer”. I left it and gave him time to gather his thoughts before I pressed on with “What is the REAL reason you want to go back to soccer?” and just as I thought, he felt he wasn’t getting ball enough in the game.

He had joined a team who had played together since they were in U6’s and they all knew each other. It’s an age where everyone wants the ball and wants to score tries. What an awesome feeling it is when you score a try for your team so why wouldn’t you want to hold onto the ball yourself and run for your life. He was disheartened and it showed in his effort and performance on the field. This is where shifting his mindset became my goal. Mindset plays a huge role in a young athlete’s view of themselves, the game, the team and ultimately how they perform.

Without trying to fix it or jumping up and down about it or telling him that that was life, we had a casual conversation about his role in the team. I wanted to shift his mindset.  I explained that getting the ball isn’t the only part of the game. We thought about a few key aspects of the game that he could do at the very next game to improve his participation.

He decided he would focus on backing up his team mate with the ball. He would achieve this by running with the ball carrier to support him and being available if the opportunity to offload the ball presented itself. I suggested he incorporate little things to boost his mood such running back to get onside instead of walking and not getting there in time for the play and to verbally encourage his team mates on the field for good plays etc. I also reminded him that tackling and stopping tries were just as important as scoring them.

I watched him make an effort to include these aspects into the very next game. He ran back to get onside, he approached every one of his team mates who scored a try to give them a pat on the back regardless of where on the field he had to run from and he supported the ball carrier at every opportunity he got.

I watched his whole energy change. He went from a negative ‘I never get the ball’ attitude to being involved in the game and being much more positive. In the first game of trying out these tactics, he was in a great supporting position to receive an offload and this encouraged him further. When his energy and performance improved due to his mindset, it was noticed by his team mates and he became more available to pass the ball to. He scored a try in each of the 3 subsequent games, kicked a conversion, got Man of the Match in one game and received lots of encouragement from other parents.

He’s enjoying the game so much more now and this all came from shifting his mindset. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.