What is an intention and how do you set one?

What is an intention and how do you set one?

An intention is how you want to feel for the day. It is identifying the outcome you want to experience in a particular situation or circumstance. It is projecting how it will pan out.

You can set an intention at any point of the day. I like to set an intention in the morning while I’m in the shower. Usually my intention involves having a great day or feeling wonderful as I move throughout my day. Yesterday morning I set an intention for a particular outcome and I’m pleased that I got it.

A few months ago I had a wisdom tooth extracted. It was the first tooth I’ve had removed and the first major dental work I’ve had done. It was a particular traumatic experience. The tooth was stubborn and took around an hour to remove which meant my entire jaw, gums and teeth were sore due to the pressure and pulling and tugging. It resulted in nerve damage which caused other issues including a numb lip for around a month. I spent the following 4 days in bed, not moving, with painkillers doing very little. It was an 8 week recovery and I feel I lost a lot of time and energy.

Another wisdom tooth has been causing me pain and grief and I have tried to put it off for as long as I could due to my previous experience. I bit the bullet, booked an appointment and on that morning I stood in the shower with the water washing over me. I centred myself, took a few deep breaths in to calm myself and bring peace. And then I made my intention.

“I intend for my wisdom tooth extraction to go well today. The tooth will pop out effortlessly, with minimal pain and a short recovery. What a great experience it is.”

And I got it. It did take a little longer to remove than a standard extraction (stubborn teeth of mine) but it was drastically less traumatic than my first experience. A little sore and swollen which is to be expected but I haven’t been confined to bed, dosing myself up on painkillers and struggling to function.

I love intentions.

What intentions do you like to set for the day?

What can you achieve in 7 years?

What can you achieve in 7 years?

Yesterday was 7 years since I’d left my husband, the father of my kids and the only life I’d ever known. I needed an AVO and police intervention after years of domestic violence including verbal and physical abuse. When I left him I luckily had a lot of support around me but I had zero self esteem and had no idea how I would manage life as a single mum after being with him since I was 15.

In the last 7 years I have been raising 5 kids by myself and doing a pretty good job. They’re all good kids and I take all the credit for it.

I’ve taken them to the snow, on several cruises, on their 1st overseas trip and across NSW camping and fourbying. We’re roadtripping to Uluru in a few months too!

I go to school events, footy games, netball carnivals, take them moto riding and love them fiercely.

I got divorced, finalised property settlement, worked my ass off and sacrificed a lot to buy my exhusband out and keep the house to give my children security and stability. I then renovated the house, sold the house and moved down the coast in search of a better life for us. We found it. It’s gorgeous down here.

I bought a block of land and moved into our brand new house 12 months ago.

I’ve graduated Uni with a Bachelor of Community Development and currently at Uni studying Law to maintain my employability and ensure our futures.

I self published a book on my DV experience, sold copies around the world and about to start collaborating with a company who shares my vision.

I’ve lost 5 kilos, worked on me and my healing and gained self confidence and self esteem I never imagined I’d ever have. I’ve learned to love who I am, flaws and all, and so damn excited for what the future holds.

I’ve never been happier ❤️

Vision Board

Vision Board

I love a good Vision Board. There’s something powerful about seeing your goals in your own handwriting and/or seeing the image of your goal and imagining yourself there.

My latest Vision Board is a May 2019 creation and I’m going to share my Manifestation Journey as I achieve everything on it.

From seeing Abraham Hicks and Kerwin Rae in person to selling more copies of my book and becoming an inspirational speaker. Visiting Uluru, The Elephant Nature Park in Thailand, The Great Barrier Reef, yoga, a Grabber Blue Ford Mustang and manifesting my soul mate into my life. It’s going to be a beautiful and exciting journey.

My YouTube channel can be found by clicking this link here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2tYgoNF7TyHi7IsjCvwLWw where I’m making videos of My Manifestation Journey in raw, unedited form shot on my iPhone 6S in my bedroom and walk in robe. You’re seeing the journey from the bottom to the top. You’ll get to see how I do it, how I manifest everything into my life.

‘I have to’ vs ‘I choose to’

‘I have to’ vs ‘I choose to’

There’s something pretty heavy about saying and feeling like you ‘have to’ do something. It doesn’t feel very fun when you feel like you’re doing something out of obligation rather than from your own accord.

I have to go to work.

I have to take the dog to the vet.

I have to pick up my mate from the airport.

Have to feels out of your control and has a tinge of negativity to it. But what if you changed the word ‘have’ and replaced it with ‘choose’?

I choose to go to work so I have money to eat, pay rent and have money for entertainment.

I choose to take my dog to the vet to keep him/her healthy and happy.

I choose to pick my mate up from the airport because I like helping him/her out.

It feels less obligatory when it’s a choice.

But what if you do feel like you have to go to work? There’s always a choice. You might not like the place you work at or it might not be the career of your dreams but right now you do have a choice.

You can choose to go to work and get paid while you wait for something else to come along or you can choose to quit right now. The downside of quitting is you won’t get that pay check.

I’m not loving the stress of my workplace at the moment but I still choose to go to work so I get paid. I like my mortgage being paid, I like to eat, my children like to eat and so I choose to go to work for the paycheck right now.

It doesn’t mean that I’m not working on manifesting something different into my life though. It just means that by changing the words I use I can shift the energy and how I feel about it.

What I’ve learnt on my weight loss journey so far.

What I’ve learnt on my weight loss journey so far.

I’m 36 years old. I’ve been trying to lose weight for a few of those years. I’m back on the journey now but with a totally different outlook!

It’s one thing to set a goal to lose weight. It’s an entirely different thing to achieve that goal. And then it’s another thing altogether to maintain that weight loss.

So here’s a few things I’ve learnt about myself for this time around.

I need to want to achieve it by putting in the work. As in the actual work. I need to understand my body, my eating habits and my why’s. I need to understand nothing good ever comes out of quick fixes. This has to be a lifestyle change.

What I’m doing different this time around is I’ve engaged the services of a personal trainer. Gyms don’t work for me. I make excuses and I allow myself to skip the gym because of said excuses. I’m tired, busy, have other things to do, giving myself a break etc etc and I’ll skip the gym given half a chance. Group sessions have worked in the past but this time around I couldn’t find one to fit in with my working hours. So a personal trainer it was. I completed my 3rd session yesterday afternoon and I make myself go because the time works for me, she’s waiting for me, she holds me accountable and I’ve paid for it in advance. If I don’t turn up I lose the money. That definitely helps.

We all know that food is a huge part of weight loss. In fact, I’ve read it’s between 70-80% of weight loss. I haven’t always taken the nutrition side of it seriously. I have taken the opportunity on many occasions to buy take out dinner or an ice cream because I’ve ‘already worked it off so I’m allowed’. Ugh.

I’m an emotional eater and I treat myself with chocolate and ice cream. If I’m sad, angry, stressed and/or happy I reach for a chocolate. If I’m proud of myself or have reached a goal more chocolate it is. I also eat out of spite. “You can’t finish all of that!!” Umm watch me. The best one was when an ex-boyfriend told me I was getting fat and needed to lose some weight. My response was to go down to the local shops and buy a block of chocolate. I got home, sat on the lounge and started chomping.
“Why are you doing that after what I just said?” he called out.
Without skipping a beat I answered “How fat do I have to get before you’ll f**k off?”

This time around I’m more conscious of my eating habits. I try to eat when I’m hungry and not just because. I try not to treat myself with food but rather intrinsically acknowledge my achievements. I don’t restrict foods but I make better choices. I drink more water now and I keep a bottle of water handy so I don’t reach for the juice or soft drink. I eat mindfully. I don’t scoff my meals while watching tv or with my phone in my hand. I savour the mouthfuls and enjoy it more.

I’ll experience a slower weight loss than if I were to jump head first into a calorie restrictive diet and spend an hour every day at the gym. But I’m making choices which fit in with my family, work and lifestyle. Therefore I’m more likely to succeed over the long term.

I’d like to lose 10 kilos. I’ll you updated.

The importance of mindset for young athletes

The importance of mindset for young athletes

My 11 year old son has played rugby league since he was 5 years old. When we moved to a new area at the beginning of last year he disovered that most of his new friends played soccer so he wanted to give it a go for the first time. No problem. He enjoyed soccer but this year he decided to go back to rugby league (much to my delight lol).

About a month ago he started throwing around the idea of returning to soccer. I knew the reason why but I wanted him to be able to verbalise the reason himself. When asked why he would just respond with “Because I just want to go back to soccer”. I left it and gave him time to gather his thoughts before I pressed on with “What is the REAL reason you want to go back to soccer?” and just as I thought, he felt he wasn’t getting ball enough in the game.

He had joined a team who had played together since they were in U6’s and they all knew each other. It’s an age where everyone wants the ball and wants to score tries. What an awesome feeling it is when you score a try for your team so why wouldn’t you want to hold onto the ball yourself and run for your life. He was disheartened and it showed in his effort and performance on the field. This is where shifting his mindset became my goal. Mindset plays a huge role in a young athlete’s view of themselves, the game, the team and ultimately how they perform.

Without trying to fix it or jumping up and down about it or telling him that that was life, we had a casual conversation about his role in the team. I wanted to shift his mindset.  I explained that getting the ball isn’t the only part of the game. We thought about a few key aspects of the game that he could do at the very next game to improve his participation.

He decided he would focus on backing up his team mate with the ball. He would achieve this by running with the ball carrier to support him and being available if the opportunity to offload the ball presented itself. I suggested he incorporate little things to boost his mood such running back to get onside instead of walking and not getting there in time for the play and to verbally encourage his team mates on the field for good plays etc. I also reminded him that tackling and stopping tries were just as important as scoring them.

I watched him make an effort to include these aspects into the very next game. He ran back to get onside, he approached every one of his team mates who scored a try to give them a pat on the back regardless of where on the field he had to run from and he supported the ball carrier at every opportunity he got.

I watched his whole energy change. He went from a negative ‘I never get the ball’ attitude to being involved in the game and being much more positive. In the first game of trying out these tactics, he was in a great supporting position to receive an offload and this encouraged him further. When his energy and performance improved due to his mindset, it was noticed by his team mates and he became more available to pass the ball to. He scored a try in each of the 3 subsequent games, kicked a conversion, got Man of the Match in one game and received lots of encouragement from other parents.

He’s enjoying the game so much more now and this all came from shifting his mindset. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.