What can you achieve in 7 years?

What can you achieve in 7 years?

Yesterday was 7 years since I’d left my husband, the father of my kids and the only life I’d ever known. I needed an AVO and police intervention after years of domestic violence including verbal and physical abuse. When I left him I luckily had a lot of support around me but I had zero self esteem and had no idea how I would manage life as a single mum after being with him since I was 15.

In the last 7 years I have been raising 5 kids by myself and doing a pretty good job. They’re all good kids and I take all the credit for it.

I’ve taken them to the snow, on several cruises, on their 1st overseas trip and across NSW camping and fourbying. We’re roadtripping to Uluru in a few months too!

I go to school events, footy games, netball carnivals, take them moto riding and love them fiercely.

I got divorced, finalised property settlement, worked my ass off and sacrificed a lot to buy my exhusband out and keep the house to give my children security and stability. I then renovated the house, sold the house and moved down the coast in search of a better life for us. We found it. It’s gorgeous down here.

I bought a block of land and moved into our brand new house 12 months ago.

I’ve graduated Uni with a Bachelor of Community Development and currently at Uni studying Law to maintain my employability and ensure our futures.

I self published a book on my DV experience, sold copies around the world and about to start collaborating with a company who shares my vision.

I’ve lost 5 kilos, worked on me and my healing and gained self confidence and self esteem I never imagined I’d ever have. I’ve learned to love who I am, flaws and all, and so damn excited for what the future holds.

I’ve never been happier ❤️

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Vision Board

Vision Board

I love a good Vision Board. There’s something powerful about seeing your goals in your own handwriting and/or seeing the image of your goal and imagining yourself there.

My latest Vision Board is a May 2019 creation and I’m going to share my Manifestation Journey as I achieve everything on it.

From seeing Abraham Hicks and Kerwin Rae in person to selling more copies of my book and becoming an inspirational speaker. Visiting Uluru, The Elephant Nature Park in Thailand, The Great Barrier Reef, yoga, a Grabber Blue Ford Mustang and manifesting my soul mate into my life. It’s going to be a beautiful and exciting journey.

My YouTube channel can be found by clicking this link here https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2tYgoNF7TyHi7IsjCvwLWw where I’m making videos of My Manifestation Journey in raw, unedited form shot on my iPhone 6S in my bedroom and walk in robe. You’re seeing the journey from the bottom to the top. You’ll get to see how I do it, how I manifest everything into my life.

‘I have to’ vs ‘I choose to’

‘I have to’ vs ‘I choose to’

There’s something pretty heavy about saying and feeling like you ‘have to’ do something. It doesn’t feel very fun when you feel like you’re doing something out of obligation rather than from your own accord.

I have to go to work.

I have to take the dog to the vet.

I have to pick up my mate from the airport.

Have to feels out of your control and has a tinge of negativity to it. But what if you changed the word ‘have’ and replaced it with ‘choose’?

I choose to go to work so I have money to eat, pay rent and have money for entertainment.

I choose to take my dog to the vet to keep him/her healthy and happy.

I choose to pick my mate up from the airport because I like helping him/her out.

It feels less obligatory when it’s a choice.

But what if you do feel like you have to go to work? There’s always a choice. You might not like the place you work at or it might not be the career of your dreams but right now you do have a choice.

You can choose to go to work and get paid while you wait for something else to come along or you can choose to quit right now. The downside of quitting is you won’t get that pay check.

I’m not loving the stress of my workplace at the moment but I still choose to go to work so I get paid. I like my mortgage being paid, I like to eat, my children like to eat and so I choose to go to work for the paycheck right now.

It doesn’t mean that I’m not working on manifesting something different into my life though. It just means that by changing the words I use I can shift the energy and how I feel about it.

What are you working towards right now?

What are you working towards right now?

Do you know what you want? Do you have a goal in mind? Regardless of what you are or aren’t doing to achieve it?

If you do know what you’re striving towards, that’s a perfect first step. If you don’t know then why don’t you set something right now. Anything.

Mine right now is to get fitter, healthier and lose a few kilos. I’m not dieting, I’m not restricting foods, I’m not spending hours in the gym but I am working towards it in a lifestyle change.

I’m eating better because I’m making better choices. I’m reaching for fruit instead of processed snacks. I’m drinking water instead of soft drink. I’m moving my body when I can.

This morning I jumped up out of bed, chucked my active wear on (really it’s a shirt and comfy pants lol) and my runners so I can take the dogs for a walk when my kids leave to catch the bus to school.

Sometimes you just need to know what you want and then just do the work to get there. Walking the dogs and better food choices today. One day at a time will get you to your end result.

Happy Monday 😊

Goal Setting

Goal Setting

Goal setting begins with something you want to achieve. Do you want to land a new job? Do you want to finish your course? Save a specific amount of money? Learn a new skill? Complete an thrill seeking adventure? Go on a holiday? Buy a new car?

Whatever it is, you need to write it down!! I cannot stress that enough. There is something very powerful that happens in your mind when you see your goal in your own handwriting. And again, write it down, in your own handwriting and put it where you will see it regularly. Stick it to your bedroom mirror, on the back of the toilet door, in your car. You need to see it.

Follow the SMART principles to create a realistic goal that you will be motivated to achieve.

Is it specific?
Goals like I want a new car or lots of money aren’t specific enough. Which car do you want to buy? How much money do you want to earn? What industry do you want a new job in? What is the skill you want to learn? Make it specific and also consider your why factor. You’ll be much more motivated to achieve a goal if you attach a why statement to it such as I want to quit smoking to improve my breathing ability and health.

Is it measurable?
It’s not enough to set a goal like I want to be happy or successful because it’s hard to measure when you get there. Setting a goal like I want to add 10 clients to my business in the next 12 months is measureable because when you hit that 10th client, you’ll be there.
Your goal should also be something meaningful because you’ll be more motivated to achieve it. Goals to do with health are usually more meaningful especially if you’ve had a health scare.

Is it attainable?
Your goal should be realistic and achievable. I want to earn $100,000 in the next week may not be realistic if you’re unemployed or on a fixed income, that’s more of a wish, but I want to earn $100,000 in 5 years time due to promotions and increased sales is a more realistic goal.

Is it relevant?
Is it something you can manage to achieve in your current lifestyle? A goal of I want to become a best selling author won’t be relevant if you hate writing. Just as I want to travel the world on my own may not quite work if you have a young family.

Is there a time frame?
Goals are much more achievable if you set a time frame for them. A goal of I want to visit Italy by 2019 is more motivating than I want to travel the world at some point in my future. Put a time limit on it to push you towards getting there.

Remember that your goals are not just about the destination but the fun along the way, the lessons learned and the person you grow into on your journey.

What’s your goal?

The importance of mindset for young athletes

The importance of mindset for young athletes

My 11 year old son has played rugby league since he was 5 years old. When we moved to a new area at the beginning of last year he disovered that most of his new friends played soccer so he wanted to give it a go for the first time. No problem. He enjoyed soccer but this year he decided to go back to rugby league (much to my delight lol).

About a month ago he started throwing around the idea of returning to soccer. I knew the reason why but I wanted him to be able to verbalise the reason himself. When asked why he would just respond with “Because I just want to go back to soccer”. I left it and gave him time to gather his thoughts before I pressed on with “What is the REAL reason you want to go back to soccer?” and just as I thought, he felt he wasn’t getting ball enough in the game.

He had joined a team who had played together since they were in U6’s and they all knew each other. It’s an age where everyone wants the ball and wants to score tries. What an awesome feeling it is when you score a try for your team so why wouldn’t you want to hold onto the ball yourself and run for your life. He was disheartened and it showed in his effort and performance on the field. This is where shifting his mindset became my goal. Mindset plays a huge role in a young athlete’s view of themselves, the game, the team and ultimately how they perform.

Without trying to fix it or jumping up and down about it or telling him that that was life, we had a casual conversation about his role in the team. I wanted to shift his mindset.  I explained that getting the ball isn’t the only part of the game. We thought about a few key aspects of the game that he could do at the very next game to improve his participation.

He decided he would focus on backing up his team mate with the ball. He would achieve this by running with the ball carrier to support him and being available if the opportunity to offload the ball presented itself. I suggested he incorporate little things to boost his mood such running back to get onside instead of walking and not getting there in time for the play and to verbally encourage his team mates on the field for good plays etc. I also reminded him that tackling and stopping tries were just as important as scoring them.

I watched him make an effort to include these aspects into the very next game. He ran back to get onside, he approached every one of his team mates who scored a try to give them a pat on the back regardless of where on the field he had to run from and he supported the ball carrier at every opportunity he got.

I watched his whole energy change. He went from a negative ‘I never get the ball’ attitude to being involved in the game and being much more positive. In the first game of trying out these tactics, he was in a great supporting position to receive an offload and this encouraged him further. When his energy and performance improved due to his mindset, it was noticed by his team mates and he became more available to pass the ball to. He scored a try in each of the 3 subsequent games, kicked a conversion, got Man of the Match in one game and received lots of encouragement from other parents.

He’s enjoying the game so much more now and this all came from shifting his mindset. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Just start where you are

Just start where you are

I’m generally happy with all areas of my life, or at least where they’re heading, but the one area I’ve struggled the most with is health and fitness. Which of course includes my weight. I’m currently about 5-6 kilos more than where I’d like to be which doesn’t sound like a lot but on my height, it sure feels like a lot. And when you’re not happy, it doesn’t how close you are, you just find it hard to be happy.

Now why don’t I do something about it? It comes down to a lack of time, energy and motivation. All in my control. I can choose to wake up an hour earlier to get a workout in. I can choose to plan my meals in advance to avoid grabbing takeaway. I can choose to have a bowl full of fruit available to snack on instead of picking the wrong snacks. It’s more in my control than what I tell myself.

I also made the mistake many people do and that is wait for a Monday, or the beginning of the month and January, yes the epitome of ‘New Year New Me’ resolutions. I thought that beginning on a Monday improved my chances of making a good go of it. However, every Monday rolled around and it passed on by without me just starting. So, I resolved I’d definitely start next Monday. For sure! Next Monday is it!!

The truth is you don’t need January, the 1st of a month or a Monday to start anything. Yesterday was a Thursday and I pushed myself to start. I feel great, sore today in muscles that haven’t been worked on in months, but definitely happier for having started. And definitely keen to work out today and not let yesterday go to waste.

Just start right where you are. You don’t need to be great to start but you do need to start to be great.